Hello, I’m Dan Drake
I help couples struggling with betrayal move from disconnection to connection.
Begin Your Healing Journey after Intimate Betrayal
Full Disclosure Prep
Full disclosure is a critical step toward healing after intimate betrayal, but it requires careful preparation to be successful. Our Full Disclosure Prep process is a choreographed framework designed to guide couples and their support teams through this delicate stage with precision and care.
Intimate Betrayal Coaching
Healing is a unique journey for every person and couple. Our Intimate Betrayal Coaching offers personalized support tailored to your specific needs. Dan Drake works with you to develop strategies for rebuilding trust, improving communication, and deepening your connection after betrayal.
DISCOVER YOUR HEALING JOURNEY
First Steps After Betrayal
The moments after discovering a betrayal are often filled with shock, pain, and confusion. Your first priority is to establish safety—physically, emotionally, and psychologically. Focus on finding stable ground by seeking support from a trusted coach, therapist or support group. It is essential to build a network that can help you navigate the initial trauma and practice self-care to manage the intense emotions. Establishing clear boundaries is also a crucial step to protect yourself during this vulnerable time.
Many partners after betrayal feel like they are free falling, unsure what is true or real about their loved one or about their relationship. A Full Disclosure can help partners regain footing back in their relationship, but establishing a foundation of truth.
Seek professional support to address emotions and begin the healing process
Set boundaries to create a safety
Develop a step-by-step plan for rebuilding trust and accountability
Focus on self-care that promote emotional and physical well-being
Consider a Full Disclosure to establish a foundation of truth based on honesty
Readiness for Full Disclosure
Knowing when you are ready for a Full Disclosure is a critical part of the healing process. Key indicators of readiness include first and foremost a willingness by the betrayer to be completely honest. Building emotional stability and a genuine commitment to healing are also important indicators of readiness. Full Disclosures require thorough preparation, including professional guidance to navigate complexities and ensure the process is safe and constructive. When the betrayer is willing to take responsibility, and both partners are willing to follow a structured plan, it signals you are ready to take this significant step toward restoration.
Relational Healing
Healing is a unique journey for every couple. Our Intimate Betrayal Coaching offers personalized support tailored to your specific needs. Dan Drake works with you to develop strategies for rebuilding trust, improving communication, and deepening your connection after betrayal. Through one-on-one guidance, you will gain the insights and skills needed to navigate your emotions, address the root issues, and build a stronger, more resilient relationship.
Full Disclosure Prep
Full disclosure is a critical step toward healing, but it requires careful preparation to be successful. Our Full Disclosure Prep process is a choreographed framework designed to guide couples and their support teams through this delicate stage with precision and care. We provide the tools and structure needed to ensure the process is handled with integrity, creating a safe environment for truth and laying the groundwork for genuine restoration.
Disclosure Document Prep
Preparing for full disclosure is more than just organizing information—it’s about building a foundation for honesty and healing. Our Disclosure Document Prep service offers step-by-step support to create a clear, well-structured disclosure document. We prioritize clarity, care, and safety throughout the process, ensuring you are prepared and confident as you take this critical step toward restoring trust.
What is a
Full Disclosure?
Full Disclosure is a facilitated process designed to create a new foundation of truth after intimate betrayal. It involves the betrayer carefully sharing the secrets that have broken trust, allowing both partners to stand on a level playing field of honesty. The goal isn’t to inflict more pain, but to replace lies with truth so that genuine healing can begin. This structured approach helps couples re-assemble the reality of their relationship and start building a renewed connection.
Who is Disclosure For?
This process is for any couple committed to repairing their relationship after the discovery of sexual betrayal. It is designed for those who are ready to take courageous steps towards healing, re-establishing intimacy based on a foundation of honesty. Full Disclosures provide the betrayed partner with information necessary to heal, and they build a bridge for the relationship to rebuild trust and safety.
What is Intimate Betrayal and what forms can it take?
IIntimate Betrayal refers to the breaking of trust within a close, personal relationship, often leaving the betrayed partner feeling hurt, disoriented, or emotionally unsafe. It can manifest in various forms, ranging from behaviors like gaslighting, where one partner manipulates the other’s perception of reality, to acts like emotional or physical affairs. Intimate betrayal can also involve compulsive behaviors such as sex addiction, which often lead to repeated breaches of trust. Each form of betrayal, whether covert or overt, impacts the relationship deeply, challenging the foundation of intimacy and trust.
What is the main goal of Full Disclosure?
How does the Full Disclosure process work?
Full Disclosure is a structured process in which a partner who has betrayed trust shares the truth about their behaviors with the affected partner. This process aims to rebuild trust, foster transparency, and create a foundation for healing.
How does an experienced guide facilitate healing?
Does Full Disclosure aim to cause more pain?
How does Full Disclosure benefit the betrayed partner?
What is the desired outcome for the relationship after a Full Disclosure?
What risks exist without professional guidance?
Why is an experienced guide necessary for this process?
About Dan Drake & ABH
Dan Drake is the founder of After Betrayal Healing. He is an Intimate Betrayal & Full Disclosure Specialist. His passion is to help clients restore relational, mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual wholeness to their lives. He understands how overwhelming this process can be and aims to provide a safe, supportive environment where individuals and couples can grow and heal.
Dan is a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist Supervisor (CCPS-S) and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor (CSAT-S).
A firm believer in collaboration, Dan has co-authored several books to guide couples through recovery, including Letters from a Sex Addict: My Life Exposed, Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal, Full Disclosure: Seeking Truth After Sexual Betrayal, Building True Intimacy, Rebuilding Your Foundation, Healthy Boundaries and Surviving the Holidays.
In his free time, Dan enjoys exploring nature, but he finds the most joy in the simple moments of everyday life: spending quality time with his wife and kids, hanging out with good friends, and playing with his sensitive Corgi, Ripley, and tenacious dachshund, Edi.
RESOURCES
PowerPoint Presentations
Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal
by Dan Drake and Janice Caudill
(Volumes 1, 2 & 3 Included)
Full Disclosure: Preparing Your Disclosure Document
by Dan Drake and Janice Caudill
(Volume 2)
Full Disclosure: Seeking Truth After Sexual Betrayal
by Janice Caudill and Dan Drake
(for Partners – 3 Separate Volumes)
Hope & Healing Chats Podcast
We discuss everything relating to intimate betrayal and betrayal trauma. Our goal is that these conversations assist you in your healing journey and help restore hope.
The Betrayal Dialogues Podcast
This podcast features two intimate betrayal specialists role-playing a couple navigating intimate betrayal, followed by expert insights, tools, and strategies for healing, recovery and rebuilding trust.
Good Reads
Books to help and guide you on your healing journey.